In the world of body images, there are often double standards. As a naturally thin woman, I've heard it all. And, since I am tall, it was even worse. Growing up, I was called Olive Oil, giraffe, and countless other names. I was told I need to eat and put some meat on my bones (I have a very healthy appetite). My grandmother was thin, my mother was thin growing up, and my children are thin. It's our genetic make-up. However, I was so pressured to gain weight, I started eating unhealthy high calorie foods to put on extra pounds.
I even hired a personal trainer. With the trainer's supervision, I packed on the pounds; however, the pounds disappeared as soon as I stopped weight training. I tried to do it myself, but it was not pretty. All of the extra weight went straight to my mid-section leaving me with a horrible muffin top and three bra cup sizes larger. While some may think the added cup size is a bonus, I find it very difficult. My body frame is still small, so fitting clothing is a challenge. While I need a size 4-6 for the bottom, I need a size 8 for the top. And, the total look of a cute dress is awkward. My breasts appear too large for my body (in my opinion).
So, why is ok to say, "Real women have curves"? The last time I checked, I'm a woman, and I'm pretty real. I'm not a stick figure. I'm not anorexic. And, I certainly have feelings. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people who may be overweight put down "skinny" women, just to make them feel better about themselves.
WHY IS THIS OK?
Like Meghan Trainor sings, "Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top." Yes, it is. Just as it is perfect for you, why is it not perfect for me? Is it because I'm thin? I've listened to this song over and over and I don’t necessarily think the Meghan Trainor was skinny shamming. But, let's ask the question. She said that she won't be "no stick figure silicon Barbie Doll". What does that mean? Why use the word stick figure to say that she won't be thin?
We can all understand that some people just won't be thin, just as thin people won't be "thick." Like people who may be overweight, I struggle to be society's expectations of being the perfect size. I want to go to the beach and feel comfortable in a swimsuit, just like every other woman. And, I want to feel good in a pair of jeans.
Body shamming in any form is just not okay.
Now, let's be clear. I'm not saying that someone cannot be too thin or too heavy for a particular situation. That is a fact. Some brands are looking for certain things. For example, in the world of modeling, some may be larger or smaller than what a designer is looking for, and that is okay. As written by bodyshamming.org: body shaming is defined as inappropriate negative statements and attitudes toward another person's weight or size.
If someone's size is not hurting you or themselves, why is it any of our business to comment or judge?